Liebster Award Nomination

Huge thank you to The Teen Queen  for nominating me! 💜💜

Check out her blog at https://theteenqueen.wordpress.com/

I love her friendly writing style and the amazing tips she shares. (Like the lip scrub recipe! Personal fave.) She posts plenty of quick and easy food ideas that actually taste great. Looking forward to more posts from The Teen Queen. Keep slaying babe.  ❤

Let’s dive right in.

1. If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go? Why? 

There are so many places I’d love to see but I’d say my top destination would be France. I’m so embarrassed to say that my sole motivation to go to France is that movie about a cooking rat. Ratatouille. I love French the language, as well as the culture and country. I love the book How To Be Parisian Wherever You Are, the French have an air of sophistication and elegant simplicity I would love to master.

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2. Why did you decide to start blogging?

I started my blog when I was 15, I’m now 19. Back then I needed somewhere to share my ideas and thoughts and get feedback. Now blogging has also become about archiving all my experiences as well as connecting with new people.

3. What was the happiest moment of your life?

The happiest moment of my life? I have no answer hahaaa.

4. If you could describe yourself in only five words, which ones would you choose?

Opinionated, Forgiving, Selfish, Creative, Enthusiastic

5. What is your favourite drink?

Liqui Fruit Cranberry Cooler

6. What is your favourite song right now?

The theme song for the cartoon series  6teen.

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7. If you could go back in time and change something from your past, what would it be?

Nothing. Everything that I’ve ever done or that has happened to me has shaped me into who I am. I wouldn’t change a thing.

8. What is your dream job?

Working as a writer and film director. I really want a director’s chair with “Rafaelle” on the back of it.

9. Are you a dog or cat person?

Cat. Cat. Cat. Love cats. 💜

10. Do you prefer memes or quotes?

Memes definitely.

I’d like to nominate the following amazing new bloggers

Zoey

Clarissa

Valerie

Basetsana

What is the Liebster Award?

It’s an award given by bloggers to show appreciation and spread blog love! ❤ The German word liebster is loosely translated as “valued”

Here are the rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
  2. Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a liebster award image.
  3. Write a 150-300 word post about your favourite blog that is not your own. Explain why you like the blog, provide links.
  4. Provide 10 random facts about yourself. ( optional.)
  5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 200 followers.
  6. List these rules in your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to: Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post or mine if you don’t have all the information so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)
  7. You should answer the questions from the blogger who nominate you. Then, you should ask 10 questions
Questions for the bloggers
  1. Who is your biggest inspiration in life?
  2. If you could do any  job, what would you do?
  3. What is one food you can’t stand?
  4. What is your favorite genre?
  5. What is your favorite animal ?
  6. What’s your favorite hobby?
  7.  It’s time for a vacation! Who’s your travel partner?
  8. What is your life motto?
  9.  What advice would you give your younger self?
  10.  What is one thing you love about yourself?
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Nov – Dec Favourites

Heeyy. I’m once again excited to be sharing a new post with you guys. This time we’re taking a look at some of the random things I’ve picked up before the years end.

Here are some of my favourite buys.

Miss Black Purse

I absolutely love this bag! I’ve been using it almost everyday since I got it. It’s the perfect size for everyday use since I don’t carry much around with me. It goes with literally anything and can fit the essentials: some cash, ID and cards, moisturizer, lip gloss and my phone. It’s also great for when I’m going out at night or for lunch. Or like… anything else! It comes in two colours; black and nude, it’s good quality so I’m giving it a 10/10 for it’s style and functionality.
I got it at Sole Shoes for P379.99

I’m very tempted to grab a similar Vero Moda purse next month.

Farah Silver & Black Watch

I got myself a watch because I actually was late to everything and that simply needed to change. For me, a watch is both stylish and practical. I love a minimalist clean look and I’m a sucker for pieces that match every outfit.

I got a classic black and silver watch. The face comes in two colours; silver and gold. I was reluctant to get the gold because faux gold can tend to look quite cheap if it goes yellowish after a while.

It retailed at the small price of P139.00 Next year I’ll be trying out AliExpress and hope to get an even cuter watch.

Checked Purse

Along with the watch I got a purse because I was exhausted of stuffing my pockets with loose change and needed somewhere to put my cards. I love the pattern on it because it reminds me of the inside of a Burberry trench coat. (Am I mad?)

It was quite cheap costing me a whole P50. I’ve had lot’s of people compliment me on how cute it is. (Thank you to the Chinese shop whose name I don’t know)

Glass Water Bottle

I upgraded my health quota by switching from a plastic water bottle to a glass water bottle. I fill it up every morning and night. I’m in love with the transparent aesthetic that I see on Tumblr and I’m dying to use it for my IG. I snatched it at Pep for just P10.99

Big Apple Mirror

Another FAVOURITE. This one is top 2. This two sided mirror is something I’ve been wanting for ages. It has 3x magnification on one side. And regular 1x magnification on the other side. With the 3x I can now slay my eyebrows to the gods! ✨ (I can now also see which exact eyelash is stabbing my eye) I got it at ShopRite for P45.95

Last but not least is the soft throw pillow I grabbed at Pep for P54.45 Not quite sure what comfort was before I had it. 😂

Cosmo x NAW

As I sign out.. I made sure to get myself a copy of New African Woman and Cosmopolitan. Cosmo gifted me a 2018 Year Planner featuring South Africa’s finest boys. Excited to use it..and not just because it has cute boys lol. I love magazines especially ones that have relevant ish for me to dive into. This months Cosmo has Kate Hudson spilling tea and a melanin queen has landed the scene in New African Woman.

XOXO. Rafa 😘

Hit or Miss. 2017’s Skin Secrets

Wow guys. I’m not gonna do the stereotypical blogger apology for being “gone for so long” but trust me when I say I was thinking about it.

The past few months have brought a whole lot of new things that I’m itching to talk about. So hang in there loves, there’s a lot to see!

2017’s Skin Secrets is the first of many beauty related posts that I’m super excited to be sharing.

The last few months I’ve been trying out a plethora (learned that word yesterday) of new thangss in hopes of finding my true love.

[Backstory] I’ve never really struggled with acne as severely as other people have. But I’ve definitely had my fair share of skin issues that I needed solved.

In the past I was a die hard Ponds Pimple Clear user.

I grabbed a small bottle of it at Clicks and didn’t look back. For a whole 7 months I used the scrub to try and maintain a healthy glow. It did a great job of cleaning my skin but somehow it always left my skin with a squad of whiteheads. To add to that it wasn’t solving my dry skin issues and by midday I always had to find a way to rehydrate. I was struggling, and by struggling I mean I was thissss close to tears over the one million WHITEHEADS that covered my chin.

Ugh

So I went on a journey to find the A-team:

  • A gentle cleanser
  • A non-greasy, long lasting moisturizer
  • A bar soap to tackle those monster whiteheads.

Let’s just say through a whole lot of trial and error. And multiple breakouts, I found stuff that had my back.. (my face actually).

From the featured pic, you can see some *affordable* products (wink wink) that actually work. I’ve rated them out of 5 stars based on how well they do their job.

Johnson’s oil control cleansing bar

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Johnson’s oil control facial cream

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Pure 3 in 1 makeup removal wipes

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Cuticura Herbal Ointment

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Cuticura Oil Control Face Wash Gel

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I’m not the biggest fan of Johnson’s Oil Control Facial Cream because it tends to make my face feel a little greasy. So I only use it at night. For the day time prefer using Cuticura Herbal Ointment. It has soooo many good things in it. Aloe Vera, Tea Tree Oil, Vitamin E and Shea Butter. My face is happier than ever.

Pure makeup removal wipes are nice and refreshing and don’t leave my skin feeling sticky at all. They’re an awesome drugstore alternative to the Clicks’ ones. Because your girl is not trying to break the bank for wet wipes. Mkay?

Friendly reminder that getting tips from YouTube, blogs and friends is great but your skincare journey is 100% unique to you and you will have to find what works for you on your own. If you’re truly stuck and are fighting skin problems that feel bigger than off the shelf products, definitely invest in professional help from a dermatologist because good skin is something everyone should enjoy.

As I sign out..

I’m happy to say that my face is happy. Apart from the once a month breakouts, me and my skin are walking into 2018 with a glo ✨ In the wise words of a tweep “2K18 SIYAGLOWA!”

XOXO. Rafa 😘

10 Things Young Creatives Should Know

Grab a cup, we are spilling creativi-tea!

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[Let’s pretend that was hilariously funny]

I had the pleasure of collaborating with the amazing Zoey from askartsgirl.wordpress.com for this advice post. Jump in.

There’s no exact formula to winning when it comes to this stuff. But we’ve come up with a bunch of things that successful creators seem to flow with:

  •  Don’t trade honesty for relatability.

Not everyone will love your work or agree with it. Whether you make music, write poetry, or are a makeup artist. You have to keep it 100% you. People can always tell when you’re trying too hard to please them. It feels forced and lacks your unique style and charm. So stay honest to your brand of creativity.

  • Be a sponge…literally

Soak it all in. If you find an inspiration, hold on to it. Keep absorbing people’s work and things that remind you of your ultimate goal. There’s nothing as motivating as looking up to people who do what you do and have become successful at it.

  • Challenge yourself!

It’s easy to get comfortable when you get good at one thing. Don’t sell yourself short! There’s always a way to be better than the last time. Every time you sit down to work, challenge yourself to produce greater things.

  • There will always be losses

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You can’t avoid it. Sometimes stuff just won’t play out the way you want it to. You set out on a project, and before you’re even halfway through, you’re screaming “I should never have done this” That’s normal. You just have to move on from it. Don’t stay stuck.

  •  Find your happy place

Our environments affect us in the most obvious ways. If you’re not feeling up to it when it comes to your work, switch up the scene. You need to have an environment where your creative energy flows. Filter out whatever stops you from doing what you need to.

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  • Build a network when you start out

    As a young creative you have to build a network for your creative talent. It may be scary  to interact with other people but it will assist you in the long run. You have to go out of your way to go to events where you can meet people who share similar aspirations. It could be fashion events, expos, cultural events, makeup or dance events. Talk to the people you meet and chances are you could meet people who will love your work, back you up and work with you in the future.

  • Self promote your talent

    I cannot stress this enough, when you’re a young creative- you have to share your content on social media. Self promoting may sound like a total pain but its always a great idea to share your talents. Share your content on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat. The good part is you get to reach potential clients or people interested in your work, the more your promote your own content.

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  • Trust the process and be patient

    When you’re a young creative you may see other creative’s instantly getting successful and you want to reach that same level as them. Now stop right there, you shouldn’t compare yourself to the next creative- you are completely unique and immensely talented in your own lane. So enjoy your journey and keep sharpening your skills and promoting your work as you will get different opportunities as you progress. Keep your head up.

  • Sharpen your talents!

    Sometimes you get stuck and don’t know what to do but you feel like you need to create something. Well, you should join some classes or workshops to improve your skills. So go book that art class or makeup class or dance class or workshop and get your groove on because you most likely could learn something new that makes you stand out from other creatives!

  • Don’t be afraid to step out of your box

    Now it may sound frightening, “stepping out of the box” but it actually could be really helpful. To improve your skills you could probably try new art material such as charcoal or colic markers for your pieces, practice a new style of dance like ballet, its never too late to  work with a photographer you like on a photoshoot. You don’t have to abandon your own style, just try it in different ways that help you grow.

Gold

I’m a huge fan of poetry. I look for raw and emotive pieces. I found that in Soso’s debut poem Gold.


Once upon a time there was a good guy and a pretty girl
He promised her that one day he would give her the world
She vibed with the idea for a little while
But unfortunately she ran out of breath after a couple of miles
She developed a fancy for a worthless fuckboy
Without realizing that to him she was nothing but a toy
He had nothing but internet punchlines and fuckboy clothes
But she failed to see and make the u-turn on the road
So the good guy got turned down and was absolutely broken
She had slashed through his heart and really cut it right open
She turned away from the human form of her happiness
For a fuckboy, who would soon deprive her of this happiness
The good guy lived on, and carried himself pretty strong
Even found himself a good girl and they got along
The pretty girl got cheated on like a math exercise
Too dumb to see through a fuckboy’s disguise

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink
It’s funny how these girls are smarter but always fail to think
You let a good guy go, and chose the f_ckboy road
He ain’t shit but steel with my colour. I am the real Gold

So after she got dumped by the one she thought was the one
She found herself back right where she had begun
She ran back to the good guy for a rebound
But he had a girl now, so she was out of bounds
Now the world had stepped on her heart twice with both feet
All because she was looking for a ship in the wrong fleet
See, all men are made of bones, meat and soul
But it’s what’s inside the heart that should really score the goal
So the pretty girl wept and wasn’t a pretty girl no more
She got what she deserved for acting like a stupid hoe
Heart break and depression
Suicide, her intention
Tears engulfing all the tissues in the world not to mention
The good guy hit her up, just to check what’s up
She let him know how much she regretted fucking up
She let a good guy go and chose the fuckboy road

He ain’t shit but steel with my colour, I am the real Gold

University Advice

To the Ones Who Don’t Know

This one goes out to those of you with no idea. No idea what you’re doing at your chosen university. No idea what you’re going to major in. No idea what or who you want to be when you graduate and are forced to enter the real world. This one is for you, because I know; I’ve been there.

When I started college, I just had no clue what the next four to five years would hold. I joined the marching band (fantastic decision), I was part of the Honors Program (horrible decision), but I didn’t have a major. And I wouldn’t have one for three full semesters.

When I finally did decide on one, I did so because I just really needed to, and I chose Creative Writing because I liked it. That was it. I didn’t have any idea what I was going to do with it, but I liked it and that’s all that mattered at the moment. I did do myself a favor, though, and tacked on a minor in Mass Communications. I had taken one class and thought it seemed interesting, so I figured, why not.

All was good and well for a while, too. That is, until one day when I was talking to my dad and he, being a very practical, left-brained type of person, was hounding me on what I was going to do with my degree. And of course, I had no idea.

Shortly thereafter, he convinced me to double major; to turn my Mass Comm. minor into a Public Relations major. I didn’t know it yet, but it turned out to be the perfect course of study for me, even if it added on an extra semester. Who really wants to leave after just four years, anyway?

I realize that double majoring is not for everyone and some programs are just so much on their own that it would be insane to add on a second one, but I think it should considered by everyone before making any final decisions.

I usually tell people that Creative Writing was my fun major and Public Relations, my practical one. Though I enjoyed both of them, my creative writing workshops were my favorite classes in my entire four and a half years. I would not trade them for anything, even though they probably won’t help too much in my future jobs. However, they weren’t pointless either, mind you.

My “fun major” was the one that kept me going. Not every class is going to be thrilling in any course of study (Research Methods for Public Relations? Blegh.), but I knew that every week I could look forward to my fiction classes. We were always a small class, full of lively conversation and lots of laughs. Reading my peers’ stories or trying to finish mine at two in the morning was my lifeblood—the academic force that pushed me through the week. Not all of my other classes were miserable, of course, but there was only a handful that I would say I was truly passionate about.

I also feel like having a double major gave me a bit of a step up. I don’t know for sure, but I would think that if a potential employer saw that someone took the initiative to take on a second course of study, they would be pretty impressed that they were not only knowledgeable in one subject, but two. Mine also worked out particularly well because PR already required some writing skills, and I just enhanced them. In interviews after I graduated, I had several interviewers say they were intrigued by my writing background. That’s a big part of why I got the job I have now!

Someday working in a field where I can use the two fields together is my dream. And it could be yours, too, if you’re torn between two fields. Or if you’re like my dad and just think your passion won’t actually make you any money.

Be careful, if you are considering a second major, though. It takes determination and a lot of hard work. Some semesters I had insane amount of assignments (usually all due within the same two-day span), but it gave me the opportunity to develop some Superwoman-esque organizational skills and I was still able to work and participate in campus activities.

I did face a couple of scheduling issues throughout my time as a double major, but my professors and advisors were all great and worked with me to make sure I got the most out of both programs. Double the majors, double the chances of having fantastic faculty.

Like I said before, double majoring isn’t for everyone, but for me, with my personality and everything, it was the perfect decision. The extra work paled in comparison to the opportunity to pursue two areas of interest and the experience I gained on both fronts.

So, how do you know if it’s for you? Well, you should have a passion for both, or at least a pretty good reason why you want to pursue both, and you should be confident that you can handle the stress that comes with the extra work. Don’t think you’re married to both of them, either. You can always drop one, or switch to a minor, if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason.

Whether you are just starting out and have no idea what your future in college holds for you or you’ve been in school for a while and the idea of double-majoring is barely in the back of your mind, feel free to reach out me with any questions you have. I am always happy to share my experiences with others and help you sort through your options!


Megan is the jack of all trades for Tribe Twenty One. She is on the editorial team, one of the content writers, and works on the social media side. She is a recent graduate of Murray State University where she double majored in Creative Writing and Public Relations. Her love of words and literature can be seen in scrawled handwriting filling dozens of notebooks and her ever-increasing book collection

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Confessions of A ‘Melanin Queen’

No one will say it but the truth is those primary school jokes about being dark skinned really​ shaped how we saw ourselves.

Back then there wasn’t even a nice word for it. You weren’t dark skinned. There was no #melanin. You were just black.. period. And being black meant being ugly.

So you sat there and laughed with the people that made jokes about YOUR skin. You had to laugh, any other emotion would be considered overreacting. God forbid they saw you cry about, you know..being black. 

It became automatic, you would anticipate those jokes​, brace yourself, put a brave face on, then laugh, smile and wave it off.

That’s where I learned to fake laughs and smiles.

Some days you couldn’t take it. You couldn’t hold it, you would bite back. Throw sarcasm in people’s faces. Acid rolled off your tongue. Savage before savage was a thing.

That’s where I learned to be defensive.

You think we were born angry black girls?

I was too young to understand that I hadn’t done anything wrong. In my subconscious, I would reason, why do you spend so much time in the sun? Why were you born so damn black? 

Back then us black girls weren’t candidates for wearing sunscreen, our black skin didn’t need any protecting. Back then when we went on school trips; “they couldn’t see us in the dark.” Back then we were as “black as shoe polish”  etcetera etcetera. *rolls eyes*

Poor black girl, with your black skin, big forehead, big nose, big lips, big butt, big hips. Poor. Black. Girl.
 

*Exhales*

At some point being nice wore off. I had to be mean, I had to spit fire at people that would come at me and my black skin. I went through high school with a gun in my mouth. When I was mad you didn’t have to feel it, you could hear it. There were​ a whole lot of pent up black girl problems. I was defensive. I was on edge always walking on eggshells, tiptoeing around the fact that I was black.

*Inhales*

But that was yesterday. Today us black girls are radiant. In case you missed that, I said; us black girls are radiant. We shine. We don’t need social media to tell us that, we don’t need pictures of glowing skin and “hashtag melanin queens” to know that. Deep down inside us we are radiant, that’s how we managed to get through. That’s how we coped. That’s the secret of our black girl magic.

Make no mistake, we don’t need sympathy or fake love. We appreciate ourselves. Our black selves. Thank you.

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Love, Estelle

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